Five years after her own wedding, the influencer Lucía Bárcena sat down to think about what she would change if she stood before the altar again today. And the answer, to the surprise of many, has nothing to do with the colour of the flowers or the perfect seating plan.

“People don't remember what colour the flowers were,” she says. “They remember how well they had fun, how much dancing there was and how good the food was.” A simple sentence, but in it is gathered everything newlyweds usually forget while drowning in details no one will even notice the next day.

The wedding was on 21 July 2021, at Pazo de Oca in Pontevedra, Galicia - an eighteenth-century estate with over eight thousand varieties of camellia. The church ceremony was held in the chapel on the estate grounds, followed by a cocktail, dinner and celebration. Among the guests were several well-known Spanish content creators.

The dress was a story in itself - long, of silk crepe with a high neckline and a hand-embroidered bow adorned with crystals and pearls, the work of designer Jorge Acuña. For the second part of the evening she had a satin version with a halter neckline and star-shaped embroidery. The earrings with diamonds and pearls had moving parts - a detail that joins elegance and practicality.

And what would she change? Instead of the high sandals she chose, she would take more comfortable heels for dancing - because, as she says, aesthetics must not outweigh comfort. She's also unsure about the transport. And she would add red accents to the decor, a colour she fled from at the time.

What stayed perfect? The music, the food, the choice of venue and, of course, the dress - for that she wouldn't change a single thread. Her biggest piece of advice to herself is almost wisdom: things that aren't in your control mustn't ruin your day.

In our part of the world weddings are a serious business, often more serious than the marriage that follows. That's why this lesson is worth hearing - not because a famous person says it, but because it's true. At the end of the day, no one will judge you by the flowers. They'll remember you by whether it was good to be there.